Kenakalan Remaja

Kenakalan Remaja

     Kenakalan remaja adalah sebuah perbuatan yang melanggar norma, aturan, atau hukum dalam masyarakat yang dilakukan pada usia remaja atau transisi masa anak-anak ke dewasa. Kenakalan remaja membawa pengaruh buruk bagi dirinya sendiri maupun orang di sekitarnya. Contoh kenakalan remaja saat ini yaitu penyalahgunaan narkoba, seks bebas, dan tawuran antar pelajar. 

   

    Kenakalan tersebut terjadi karena beberapa faktor. Bisa disebabkan dari dirinya sendiri (internal), maupun dari luar (eksternal). Contoh faktor internal adalah krisis identitas dan kontrol diri yang lemah. Krisis identitas : perubahan biologis dan sosiologis pada diri remaja memungkinkan terjadi 2 bentuk integrasi. Pertama, terbentuknya perasaan akan konsistensi dalam kehidupannya. Kedua, tercapainya identitas peran. Kenakalan remaja terjadi karena remaja gagal mencapai masa integrasi kedua. 

          Kontrol diri yang lemah : remaja yang tidak bisa mempelajari dan membedakan tingkah laku yang baik dan buruk akan terseret pada perilaku nakal. Begitupun juga bagi mereka yang telah mengetahui perbedaan 2 tingkah laku tersebut, namun tidak bisa mengembangkan kontrol diri untuk bertingkah laku dengan pengetahuannya. 

     Contoh faktor eksternal adalah keluarga dan perceraian orangtua, pergaulan yang tidak baik, dan lingkungan yang kurang baik. Keluarga dan perceraian orangtua, tidak adanya komunikasi antar anggota keluarga, atau perselisihan antar anggota keluarga bisa memicu perilaku negatif pada remaja. Pendidikan yang salah di keluarga pun, seperti terlalu memanjakan anak, tidak memberikan pendidikan agama, atau penolakan terhadap eksistensi anak, bisa menjadi penyebab terjadinya kenakalan remaja.

        Hal-hal yang bisa dilakukan untuk mengatasi kenakalan remaja adalah :

     1. Kegagalan mencapai identitas peran dan lemahnya kontrol       diri bisa dicegah atau diatasi dengan prinsip keteladanan. Remaja harus bisa mendapatkan sebanyak mungkin figur orang-orang dewasa yang telah melampaui masa remajanya dengan baik juga mereka yang berhasil memperbaiki diri setelah sebelumnya gagal pada tahap ini.

   2. Kemauan orangtua untuk membenahi kondisi keluarga sehingga tercipta keluarga yang harmonis, komukatif, dan nyaman bagi remaja. Kemauan remaja untuk membentuk ketahanan diri agar tidak mudah terpengaruh dengan teman sebaya yang kurang baik.

     3. Remaja pandai memilih teman dan lingkungan yang baik serta orangtua memberi arahan dengan siapa dan di komunitas mana remaja harus bergaul. 

Song Lyrics (4)

Jar Of Hearts

Christina Perri

I know i cant take one more step

towards you

cause all that's waiting is regret

dont you know im not your ghost anymore

you lost the love i loved the most

i learned to live half alive

and now you want me one more time

and who do you think you are?

running 'round leaving scars

collecting your jar of hearts

and tearing love apart

you're gonna catch a cold

from the ice inside your soul

so dont come back for me 

who do you think you are? 
i hear you're asking all around
if i am anywhere to be found
but i have grown too strong
to ever fall back in your arms
and i've learned to live half alive
and now you want me one more time
and who do you think you are?
 running 'round leaving scars

collecting your jar of hearts

and tearing love apart

you're gonna catch a cold

from the ice inside your soul

so dont come back for me 

who do you think you are? 
and it took so long just to feel alright
remember how to put
back the light in my eyes
i wish i had missed
the first time that we kissed
cause you broke all your promises
and now you're back
you dont get to get me back
and who do you think you are?

running 'round leaving scars

collecting your jar of hearts

and tearing love apart

you're gonna catch a cold

from the ice inside your soul

so dont come back for me 

dont come back at all
and who do you think you are?

running 'round leaving scars

collecting your jar of hearts

and tearing love apart

you're gonna catch a cold

from the ice inside your soul

 dont come back for me 

dont come back at all
who do you think you are?
who do you think you are?
who do you think you are?

Song Lyrics (3)

When I Was Your Man

Bruno Mars

Same bed but it feels just a little bit bigger now
our song on the radio, but it dont sound the same
when our friends talk about you
all that it does is just tear me down
cause my heart breaks a little when i hear your name
and it all just sound like uuuu...
hmm too young, too dumb to realize
that i should've bought you flowers
and held your hand
should've gave you all my hours
when i had the chance
take you to every party
 cause all you wanted to do was dance
now my baby is dancing
but she's dancing with another man
My pride, my ego, my needs
and my selfish ways
caused a good strong woman like you
to walk out my life
now i never, never get to clean up
the mess i made
and it haunts me everytime i close my eyes
it all just sounds like uuuu...
too young, too dumb to realize
that i should've bought you flowers
and held your hand
should've gave you all my hours 
when i had the chance
take you to every party
cause all you wanted to do was dance
now my baby is dancing
but she's dancing with another man
Although it hurts, 
i'll be the first to say that i was wrong
oh, i know im probably much too late
to try and apologize for my mistakes
but i just want you to know
i hope he buys you fowers
i hope he holds your hand
give you all his hours
when he has the chance
take you to every party
cause i remember how much you loved to dance
do all the things i should have done
when i was your man
do all the things i should have done
when i was your man

Song Lyrics (2)

Say You Wont Let Go

James Arthur

i met you in the dark

you lit me up

you made me feel as though

i was enough

we danced the night away

we drank too much

i held your hair back when

you were throwing up

then you smiled over your shoulder

for a minute i was stone cold sober

i pulled you closer to my chest

and u asked me to stay over

i said i already told ya

i think that you should get some rest

i knew i loved you then

but you'd never know

cause i played it cool when i was scared of letting go

i knew i needed you

but i never showed

but i wanna stay with you

until we're grey and old

just say you wont let go

just say you wont let go

i wake you up with some breakfast in bed

i'll bring you coffee

 with a kiss on your head

i'll take the kids to school

wave them goodbye

and i'll thank my lucky stars for that night

when you looked over your shoulder

for a minute i forget that im older

i wanna dance with you right now

you look as beautiful as ever

and i swear that everyday u'll get better

you make me feel this way somehow
i'm so in love with you
and i hope you know
darling your love is more than it's worth in gold
we've come so far my dear
look how we've grown
and i wanna stay with you
until we're grey and old
just say you wont let go
just say you wont let go
i wanna live with you
even when we're ghosts
cause you were always there for me
when i needed you the most
im gonna love you till
my lungs give out
i promise till death we part
like in our vows
i wrote this song for you
now everybody knows
cause it's just you and me
until we're grey and old
just say you wont let go

just say you wont let go
 just say you wont let go
 just say you wont let go
oh just say you wont let go